Wow. Did not expect this long of a series guys =) Hope it was helpful. I have a few remaining tips to help manage all of this stuff and perhaps avoid some common pitfalls along the way. Let’s see what they are.
RESISTANCE: We need to figure out and conquer any resistance we have towards working on our emotions. This usually is a fear of some kind. It is up to us to figure out what this fear is. Maybe it is a fear of being vulnerable, a fear of losing control, a fear of failure, etc. Sometimes resistance comes in the form of addictions to food, drugs, or sex.
VULNERABILITY/TRUST: In the end, we need to become vulnerable. Most of us are taught to never enter into this state. Just remember that it is part of the work. In fact, it feels good to be vulnerable and find out that you don’t fall apart. Relying on friends, family, and God are all good ways to do this. God is a good place to start if you feel uncomfortable talking with others. This ultimately involves trusting yourself and others and providing a “safe space” for this stuff to come up.
FORMALITIES: Drop the “formalities” guys. There is no right formula with this stuff. The goal is not to do it perfectly We need to let go of the performance mindset and allow things to come how they come. We are taught to be able to control everything. Well, sometimes being “out of control” in a safe and constructive way is how to accomplish our goals.
CONTROL: Usually this stuff builds up because we hold on to this control so much. Most of us are afraid to ever lose control. We are afraid to lose control of time. We are afraid to lose control of our relationships. We are afraid to lose control of ourselves. God forbid that we have a slip up on our diet, someone sees us being emotional, or thinks that we don’t “have it together.” I have a little secret. There is a huge difference between having it together and maintaining the APPEARANCE of having it together. Most of us are trained to keep up appearances. Sometimes underneath there is a different story going on. Your body carries and tells that story for you.
LOVING YOURSELF: This is the ultimate goal guys. People that respect and love themselves do not ask their bodies to carry the weight of this stuff. Being human and alive is to be emotional. It is part of who we are. It is a major reason why we see so many disorders and health challenges that seem so resistant to medical treatment. When you love yourself on a deep level and begin to FOLLOW love, instead of thinking that WE know best, amazing things start happening. All of a sudden things make sense. You let go of past hurts and grudges. You see yourself in a new light. You see other people in a better light. When you love yourself, all of the other “barriers” will be dropped down on their own. There are only two true emotions in this world; LOVE and FEAR. Which one is running your life?