REAL MEN TAKE TIME OFF.
This does not mean avoiding our problems or being lazy. These are entirely different things. So what am I talking about?
Time off. Taking a personal day. Taking time off of work. Taking time off of “accomplishing” things. Taking time off of thinking about the future. In our modern lives, many of us find it difficult to just BE. We are raised to keep climbing the ladder. There isn’t really an end point in mind. So what do we do? We keep climbing. There isn’t really time to enjoy WHERE we are in the moment. I try not to bring religion into this stuff, but the idea of a “SABBATH” is very important. I am not talking about “Christianity,” “Islam,” “Buddhism,” or any other form of religion. What I am talking about is the idea that as human beings, we should dedicate at least a day a week to being present with our lives and taking a break from all the work and happenings that we participate in. Many of us spend our “days off” accomplishing jobs that we couldn’t get done during the work week. Maybe we are running errands. Maybe we are doing our taxes or finances. This doesn’t quite fit the bill either. There are certain things that need to be done, but many of us allow the list to pile up so high that we never can quite relax. We are meant to enjoy our lives. To find the balance between striving for the future and loving where we are in the present. It is a difficult balance to strike for sure. I definitely haven’t found it yet. What does time off look like?
TIME OFF: My definition of “time-off” means enjoying the present moment in whatever you are doing. The deciding factor is whether or not there is an end-goal in mind. Time off is simply enjoying life for the experience and not for the outcome. Turning off the “job-brain,” or as Joe Robinson calls it; “The Performance Identity.” Read a book without expecting to learn anything useful. Take a hot bath. Shoot pool at a pool hall without trying to “win” or “improve your game.” Watch a funny movie just to LAUGH. Give somebody a hug. Read the bible, Tao Te Ching, or other spiritual texts. Take a big nap or meditate in the middle of the day.
Some of us are very yang. We tend to want to keep pushing forward. This is great and all if it comes from a place of LOVE. When it comes from FEAR it isn’t so good. Taking time off is a great way to rediscover WHO you are inside. Let’s reclaim that time off. The ironic thing about all of it? OFTEN BY TAKING TIME OFF WE ACTUALLY ACCOMPLISH MORE!