WE vs. I. What does that really mean?
We come into this world as an “I.” If conditions are met, we slowly realize that we are also a we. WE are part of a larger whole. We are part of the rest of the people who are also I’s and We’s. The more deep healing work we have done, the more we realize this to be true. From a biological standpoint; this makes perfect sense. A baby needs its mother. It will not survive on its own so it needs to think about itself first. We can’t help the world if we don’t survive =) If the baby has a mother, situations are non-traumatic, and all is well; the child starts the slow but steady climb into personhood. It learns as it grows that it is not as dependent on everybody else around it. It has autonomy and a “self.” Therefore, it does not need to be focused on “I” so much. What if the child doesn’t think it got the love it needed? Another block in the road. We all have issues growing up. We all have stuff that could use a little work. If I drew a picture of how most of us live, would we be connected? Or would we be SEPARATED PEOPLE LIVING TOGETHER? What is the problem with all of this? WE ARE WE’S! We live together. We are all part of this thing going on here. The irony of it all? The best way to help the world is to help yourself first. I am not talking about material goods like helping yourself to bigger tv’s, nicer clothes, and more women. I mean helping yourself spiritually. Loving yourself enough to go through the hard work and grow. What starts happening? The more we resolve the “I” issues that we saw as unmet growing up; the more present we can be in the world today. We become more INDEPENDENT. We don’t live in FEAR as much. If we don’t live in fear as much, we live in LOVE more! What does love naturally want to do? HELP others. GIVE. SHARE. BE WE’S. In fact, noticing how often you think about and do things for others seems to be a pretty reliable gauge (unless you are doing it for yourself). Ultimately, we are human beings. How does the system work? In my view, God has created it pretty wonderfully. We are designed to love ourselves enough to grow. To go through the hard stuff. As we grow, we can then in turn help others to grow as well. We become “part” of the collective whole. As we realize this, we want to help others as well. If we haven’t found or acknowledged the pain and suffering in ourselves; how are we supposed to see it in others? There is nothing that says we can’t work on ourselves WITH others. Many people in the world are afraid to show others their true feelings. Does this sound like WE behavior to you? Love is said to be the only thing you can give away and have more of. Let’s see if this is true. Let’s start working together on becoming WE’S